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Ask Naya: “carry-along” factor: dreams should include friends

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Dear Naya

There’s this dream I have been thinking about: I was going to  travel the world.

When I  told my friends, they told me that’s impossible for me to even do, that I should give up.

What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused

I see what the problem is: your friends are only saying that to you because they will miss you if you leave.

Maybe their dreams were crushed when they were your age but age doesn’t have to do with dreams, you aspire and continue to aspire to fulfill  that dream, now there’s a lifelong dream.

Dear Naya

I have a friend who is trying to  travel to different places without me and doesn”t understand  that I want to come.

Can you try to change my friend’s mind before my friend is gone?

We’ve been friends for so long and I  don’t want to lose a best friend suddenly in the 11th grade.

Worried

Dear Worried

If you want to stay friends with her, you have to let her follow her dream and I know you will be crushed if she told you to pursuing living your own dreams. You  have a friend who obviously needs your comforting. She’s open enough to be honest. She shared her feelings because she realized that if she didn’t, it would affect your special bond.

Keep pursuing your dreams.  I  know she’s got your back no matter what  happens.

*Dreams are meant to last: without them, we wouldn’t make it in the world.

Aside

Dear, Naya My parents told me this scary story about some kids who went missing when  they were camping.  It begins with 6 kids camping in the deepest woods, called “witches’ ground.” As they come upon a house in the middle of … Continue reading

Ask Naya: time to heal those secret scars

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Dear Naya,

My friends are ignoring me. Nobody wants to  acknowledge the pain that I carry.

Will I get over this feeling of being deeply misunderstood?

Deeply Hurt

Dear Deeply Hurt

There are kids out there who need comfort and help, these kids are “the hurt ones,” the ones that you see with  their faces down  on  the  desk  or who come to  school late so  that people won’t ask “What’s wrong?”

There’s a reason  why they give no  answer, because they know we’ll forget about it since we  are all too busy paying attention to ourselves (and taking selfies).

I understand their scars: what I mean by scars are not cutting yourself, but living with hurt feelings that are never spoken or acknowledged. Most people turn away from those feelings. The “hurt ones” are invisible to the crowd, or are seen as weird or creepy.

I tell you everyone has scars, so don’t hide away from us,  get to know us. “Scars are meant to be heard, not meant to be kept”

Ask Naya: stormy relationships

 

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Dear Naya,

The advice you gave me is really great, but there’s one little thing,

My boyfriend cheated on  me  with  my  best  friend, claiming that  they didn’t do anything, but I saw them kiss. OUCH.

Fool that I am, the  next  day I  forgave him because he was the only guy who ever caught my eye.

But he had eyes for other girls — and had the moves too.

Totally Confused

Dear Totally Confused,

Sometimes, it’s worth forgiving the person you love. It’s your move. Not his.

Dear Naya,

My life without him is nothing if he’s not there with  me so  are  you  saying I  should dump  him  and move on? The advice you dish out sometimes confuses me but I know  that  you probably went  through the same thing so  what  should I  do?

Totally Confused

Dear Totally Confused,

What I am saying is that nobody can trust a cheater.  What they say is never true  and they will do anything just to win you back. I’m sorry that my advice confuses you. Just trust that you will make the best decision.

You will find someone special when  you least  expect  it. Te di mi corazo`n para darme la mano para un u`ltimo soporte – Naya

* that means: I gave you my heart so give me your hand for one last stand

Ask Naya: why a male best friend acts so weird?

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by Janaya Andrews

Dear Naya:

My  best friend   always   said  he will be there for me  to  the  end  of  time,  but then  turned  his  back  on  me when  I  needed him  the  most.

We’ve been friends since he threw crayons at me in pre-school. We used to get in trouble for gossiping about our teacher when we were supposed to be adding and subtracting.

He started hanging out with my close female friend and I thought nothing about it. Until…he told me he had a crush on me, which I minimized and told him, we should just continue to be friends.

Bam. He started flirting with my female friend and then I found out they’d been secretly dating. Behind my back. He didn’t bother telling me.

What should I do?

Double Loser

 

Dear Double Loser

Obviously this young man is more confused than you are. He likes you and wants your attention. So instead of understanding that your friendship is precious, he hit on your best female friend.

This is more drama than you need in your life.

 

Ask Naya: scared shaking after Paranomal Activity

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Dear Naya

I just watched Paranormal Activity and I’m still shaking: I keep feeling my leg being pulled and guttural whispers behind my ears. It’s driving me crazy.

Super Scared

Dear Super Scared

You need a human security blanket, if you ask me.

A “cuddle buddy” will hug you and sip hot chocolate with you (and gobble up marshmallows) while you try not to tremble in the dark. It’s better than clenching a stuffed animal or a pillow all night if you ask me.

In Japan, they have cuddle cafes (called sleep together shops) where you can just sleep with a stranger — male or female — for 1 hour for 6,000 yen or $58 (or $500 for the entire night).  You can order extra services your mom would do — like patting your head or sleeping on their lap.

Sayonara.

Ask Naya: ever thought the person you like might like you back??

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Dear Naya,

There’s this guy that I have been crushing on ever since 8th grade and now I’m in the 11th grade.

Still can’t tell if he likes me back; he is always calling me names or hitting me but only when he’s with his friends

When he’s alone,  he’s a totally different guy: I just don’t  know if he likes me or not.

The next day, I went shopping to change my style, hoping he will notice me.

I bought a tank top with some shorts and woke up the  next day and still didn’t get a “hi” — just a glance.

What should i do?

Confused

Dear Confused:

First of all, don’t change your look for a guy to like you, just be who you are and everything will play out fine, because if you do change, he may notice. But wait, NO, that is not good; it’s actually bad.

In fact, it’s awful: he will think that you’re so desperate and that you really need your crush to like you.

Then, he’ll just pull away more, because of your desperation. Crushes don’t like it when your an easy target: it takes a good act, one that triples your value.

Just be yourself and I guarantee he will be following you around like a puppy dog, not saying that guys are dogs but they are sweet, and you sometimes want to cuddle with them.

Naya

Dear Naya,

The advise you  gave me is great: I just wish I knew how to talk to the guy I have a crush on so that he can know that I have a crush on him without showing it, but how do I?

Still Extra Confused

Dear Still Extra Confused:

Well, if you want to talk to him, why not take it slow: first ask him about himself and get to know each other more before you actually decide to act on your crush.

Act calm, like you don’t care (but you care that he likes you back).

This is Crush Week, so send your QUESTIONS TO NAYA

“Crushes are meant to be kept never broken so keep this crush a secret or your crush is took’n”- by Janaya