I just watched Paranormal Activity and I’m still shaking: I keep feeling my leg being pulled and guttural whispers behind my ears. It’s driving me crazy.
Dear Super Scared
You need a human security blanket, if you ask me.
A “cuddle buddy” will hug you and sip hot chocolate with you (and gobble up marshmallows) while you try not to tremble in the dark. It’s better than clenching a stuffed animal or a pillow all night if you ask me.
In Japan, they have cuddle cafes (called sleep together shops) where you can just sleep with a stranger — male or female — for 1 hour for 6,000 yen or $58 (or $500 for the entire night). You can order extra services your mom would do — like patting your head or sleeping on their lap.
Ask Naya: time to heal those secret scars
My friends are ignoring me. Nobody wants to acknowledge the pain that I carry.
Will I get over this feeling of being deeply misunderstood?
Dear Deeply Hurt
There are kids out there who need comfort and help, these kids are “the hurt ones,” the ones that you see with their faces down on the desk or who come to school late so that people won’t ask “What’s wrong?”
There’s a reason why they give no answer, because they know we’ll forget about it since we are all too busy paying attention to ourselves (and taking selfies).
I understand their scars: what I mean by scars are not cutting yourself, but living with hurt feelings that are never spoken or acknowledged. Most people turn away from those feelings. The “hurt ones” are invisible to the crowd, or are seen as weird or creepy.
I tell you everyone has scars, so don’t hide away from us, get to know us. “Scars are meant to be heard, not meant to be kept”
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